I would like to say that things around here have been pretty quiet, but that would be a lie! Things are a 'movin' and a 'shakin' at the Miller household! This post is going to be a mishmash of a lot of things that might seem pretty random, but all serve to point out that BIG THINGS ARE HAPPENING!
If you've been following us for any stretch of time, you know that Adam was scheduled to deploy to Afghanistan at the end of July. And as hard as that was, it was really going to provide some financial cushion for us to buy a house and save all the money we needed for our adoption. And while we certainly could adopt while we still live in an apartment, we feel pretty strongly that we should be in a house before we start that process. So, yeah, that's a ton of money.
I remember when Adam and I first agreed to adopt. And his brain immediately went to, "How are we going to pay for this? How are we going to make sure that all the kids have braces and go to college?" ('Cause, let's face it, any biological Miller kids are gonna need glasses and braces!) And I just remember feeling this peace about it and saying, "God wouldn't have called us to do this if He weren't going to show us a way to pay for it." There are low-interest adoption loans available, but we also feel pretty strongly that God doesn't want us to go into debt trying to pay for an adoption.
So we've basically been praying our guts out that God would do some BIG THINGS to help pave the way for our adoption. Wanna know what God has been up to?
2. We are working on paying off any debt that we have, so that we can really maximize our savings for a house and adoption. We paid off a $1,500 credit card in three weeks! We cut a $2,500 credit card IN HALF in a week!
3. Adam had a student loan bill for $1,800. It turns out that his school no longer is using the same company to process payments, so the account got cancelled somehow. If Adam enrolls in school for this next quarter (which he will) and doesn't drop out (which we won't), they will wipe that debt clean. Uh...what? I've never ever heard of a school just forgiving student payment debt. So, yeah, $1,800 GONE!
4. A year and a half ago, I met with someone from the Indiana University School of Social Work (where I went to school) about possibly teaching an undergraduate class or two. That person then went on sabbatical for a year, and I never heard back from her. She e-mailed last week and asked if I was still interested, and we have a meeting set up this week to talk about me teaching a class about diversity.
5. Back in March, I agreed to do a Project Odyssey with the Wounded Warrior Project. It was completely volunteer, but it was basically a chance for me to travel and help soldiers (and ski for the first time!), so I did it. Well, after that, they were able to partner with a volunteer group that I belong to, and they found funding for me to do another Odyssey in May. Oh, and they back paid me for the Odyssey in March. And they asked me to do two more before the end of summer.
6. In an effort to save money, we have stopped eating out. We have allowed ourselves the treat of eating out once a week, but we don't get to go anywhere nice (and if we do, we don't get to pay full price for our meal and we drink water only). We decided to go to our favorite wing place on Thursday because they have a discount on wings then. The wings were delicious, but the service was lousy, so they offered to give us 50% off our meal. So we ended up paying 25% of the full price for our meal.
God works in the big ways and in the little ways. Sometimes it's $7,000 in hospital bills. Sometimes it's discounted wings. Either way, we are thankful.
As Adam and I were figuring our finances, he said, "You know, it just seems weird that some of this stuff has dogged us for years, and now it's just all going away." I truly believe that this is a direct result of our commitment to adoption and praying faithfully for God to deliver the goods.
In April, when I had the chance to see Joyce Meyer speak, she said that she thinks God might get a little insulted when people say, "Well, all we can do is pray." Because it makes prayer sound like a small thing. And, to be really honest, praying about our adoption is the only way we are going to be able to make it happen. And we trust in our hearts that God wants our child or children to be with a loving, mostly stable (ha!) family.
I CAN'T WAIT to see how God moves in the next year!
"Grant me that I may not pray with my mouth alone. Help me that I may pray from the depths of my heart." ~Martin Luther
Friday, June 1, 2012
So, life is really weird right now.
We had some warning, but it didn't really make things any easier when we got the news.
The deployment has been cancelled.
I can see some of you reading this and going, "Uhmm...that's a good thing, right?"
And, ohmuword, it sure is.
But, in the last three days, we have done a complete reworking of The Life Plan.
And, boy, is that draining.
I remember, on my way to watch my best friend try on wedding dresses, being in my car and crying crying crying about this deployment. And I was praying praying praying for it to somehow make sense. And I just felt this peace--God is funny like that. And it was just like, "If Adam deploys, then you will have all the money you need for the adoption." And I was really okay with it from then on. If I could see the purpose in it, then it was about as okay as it was gonna be.
Now, obviously, I can see the benefits of a cancelled deployment pretty clearly.
Uh, hello? I get to spend mostly every single day of the next year with my husband! As I've said many times these last few days...there is no amount of money to make it okay for me to separated from him for that long. I would rather be dirt poor, living in our little apartment, with no babies for the rest of our lives, if that means that we get to be together.
And, boy, that counts for a lot.
And he doesn't have to go fight in a war.
Which I'm pretty happy about.
(It should be noted that Adam is pretty disappointed. He was very much looking forward to this.)
I may or may not have had a pretty good pity party for us last night. We don't do it very often, so I set the table for two! Things like, "Why don't we ever get what we want?!" may have come out of my mouth. (Did I honestly say that? About a deployment being cancelled?!...I told you things were weird right now.)
And my dear, sweet, amazing husband said, "Maybe we are wanting the wrong things. Maybe this is one of those situations where we don't get what we want because of something better."
And I know he's right. But I feel like, lately, we've just had so many doors closed in our smug little faces.
And that is so hard.
As far as an adoption update, we have about 25% of the total amount that we need for the entire process...which is AMAZING! We have been so blessed by the generosity of others and by God's favor on my business!
We are now trying to think and plan and strategize for other ways to fundraise. We are certainly open to any ideas that you may have. What have you done for fundraisers for organizations?
So, right now, we are in a pretty serious holding pattern. Praying for direction. Praying for peace.